The Genius Ideal

Idealism is a subject worthy of skepticism yet there’s still good cause to speak of “The Genius Ideal”. A lot of harm has undoubtedly been caused by idealists with their utopian visions and imaginings of potential.

However, genius is commonly misunderstood as an unattainable ideal, a degree of brilliance that makes its mark on society for decades, perhaps lifetimes. People generally think of the likes of Mozart or Einstein. Some claim that anything less than that is simply not genius.

However, the genius is a latent spirit we are all born with, it is a unique style or talent that comes to the fore when the conditions are right. When we are truly in tune with our inner calling, our passion begins to shine and everyone gets to rejoice in that radiance.

If we wish to create the best possible chances for our offspring to connect with the genius ideal… how do we do that?

It’s worth realising that the biggest hurdle to our children’s development tends to be the ourselves, the parents.

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Facing the Storm

Facing the storm - four children looking out to heavy sea

Feeling the wind about to knock me over is a childhood memory I’ll never forget. This week I took a small group of children for a similar experience… to look out at the snarling sea and feel the force of the wind. They sat transfixed for ages, staring out into the waves, facing the storm. They weren’t afraid of the weather… they were exhilarated by it. No fear of falling over or being caught by the rapidly approaching waves… and perhaps they were even a little too fearless… but no one got knocked over or got their feet wet.

This beautiful moment seemed to symbolise a current theme as I try to engage the people I know in conversations about the situation of the world in which we find ourselves.

As people who care for the future generations, do we have the courage for facing the storm which seems almost ready to engulf us?

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Serving our children

child in the darkness

The question of how best to serve our children is one that could easily be a recipe for depression if we do not ask with the understanding that we’re all doing our best. I wish I was better at drawing because I can envisage a cartoon: there’s a child playing innocently on the ground while two parents create a shield upon which the full weight of an avalanche is bearing down, threatening to crush the family. The avalanche is not natural but composed of a number of dark factories labelled Big Pharma, School, Video Games, Social Media and Junk Food.

Even working in concert with my partner, the pressure to resist all of these forces is very challenging, it asks an enormous amount of us. It’s humbling to imagine what that might be like for those parenting alone. And yet, two people is not enough to be able to protect children from the unbelievable pressures exerted by society today. This is why The Genius Tree and New Paradigm Education are seeking to build a community which shares some of the same values.

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The Red Book for Girls

Cover/Title of El Libro Rojo de las Niñas

The Red Book for Girls or Livre Rouge des Filles is a magical book that we have translated into English and French from the original Spanish version, El Libro Rojo de las Niñas.

The Red Book for Girls conveys an important message to women everywhere… a message of global significance which we hope will be shared far and wide so that it can positively affect the millions of women who can benefit from it.

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Toby Segar Interview…

Toby Segar Interview

This Toby Segar interview was a long-awaited pleasure. After years of watching this man and the rest of the Storror crew jumping off buildings and making our hands sweat from behind the comfort of our computer screens, we finally had the opportunity to talk to this courageous young man and find out more about what makes him tick and how he came to be known internationally for doing what he loves to do.

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Heroes and Genius

Heroes and Genius... children silhouetted against a colourful sunset

More than once I’ve had people ask me if it’s wise to use the words heroes and genius in association with children. What is the justification for using such powerful language in the context of some snotty, undeveloped youngsters?

A recent quote verbatim: “Is it a good idea to be calling kids geniuses?”

Having been the second time in a couple of days that I had been asked such a question, it has driven me to write this reply in order to dignify such an inquiry.

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The Prodigy by Hermann Hesse

Front cover of The Prodigy by Hermann Hesse

This short pre-amble is really just to contextualise some quotes from The Prodigy by Hermann Hesse, a writer whose poetry is more than able to convey what he wished to say. This book was also released under the name “Beneath the Wheel” which gives a more immediate clue as to his opinion of the schooling process.

The back cover of this edition reads:

This novel is Hermann Hesse’s indictment of conventional education. It is the story of a brilliant young boy whose spirit is systematically broken by his parents and teachers; over-anxious about his success, they forget to consider his health and happiness. Out of his attitude to such treatment, Hesse developed his views on the value of Eastern education in developing the self.

This incredible writer has kept me spellbound for hours on end and I’ve re-read his classics many times, including this smaller work where he attacks education for its sins against youth and our inner intelligence.

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The Web of Love

The Web of Love - a picture of a spider's web

The web of love is one of my favourite activities for the end of the day. My two year old is pretty feisty and it really takes something to calm her down when she’s finally lying down in bed. We removed her cot recently and she’s still adapting to the new found freedom of a junior bed. She can easily get up and fall prey to the temptations of books and toys so I need to do something which can gradually relax her while occupying her attention.

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Managing mealtimes with children

Managing mealtimes with children

This is the first of a short series of blogs on the subject of managing mealtimes with children.

As an event which generally occurs three times a day for a good 18 years, at least, either a family establishes some good practices or these daily rituals become trials we must endure… grinding us down. The act of eating together can be something which actually brings everyone together for a genuinely enjoyable experience, it might require that we explicitly express our intentions in order for that to happen.

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Modern Table Etiquette

Modern Table Etiquette stefan-vladimirov-Q_Moi2xjieU-unsplash

What exactly constitutes modern table etiquette? What do we need to teach our children so that meal times can be a pleasurable experience for everyone? Some modern research points to health benefits arising from eating with others.

Although I was taught table manners in the sense of how to hold my knife and fork and to chew with my mouth closed, my family didn’t really engender the spirit of harmony at meal times. It wasn’t until I lived in France and Spain that I really came to understand what sharing a meal could really mean.

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Sleep, beautiful sleep.

sleep, sleep beautiful sleep

If the art of successful real estate comes down to location, location, location, then the art of happy parenting comes down to sleep, sleep and more sleep.

With everything we’ve learned from recent scientific studies of sleep, of which there are many, the wisdom of our grandparents about getting kids to bed on time has been soundly confirmed, should we ever have doubted it (and I certainly did).

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The Power of Routine

The Power of Routine

Appreciating the power of routine was not something I was immediately given to seeing that I’ve spent most of my life living in the moment and responding to life spontaneously. As an arty, creative type, always involved with numerous projects and their frequently shifting timetables, regularity and routine often seemed like unattainable and undesirable objectives.

It wasn’t until I lived with a woman whose personal routines ran like clockwork did I begin to see the positive impact it had on our children. Had childcare been left solely to me, our kids would undoubtedly have gone to bed when they fancied, perpetually messing with their circadian rhythms.

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The Power of Repetition

The power of repetition - rows and rows of rubber ducks

The power of repetition has generally been ingrained into us without our realising. It’s not until living with a toddler can we really see the degree to which repetition is an essential part of the learning process. There are moments when the constant recycling of the same conversations can be to the limit of draining our will to live as parents but it’s the thought that these processes are what’s required for them to feel confident with their rapidly acquired knowledge.

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The Knowledge Bullet

A bullet marked with two words, no and know, is flying through the air and photographed in slow motion

Just lately I’ve been considering the importance of possibly the most vital word in a parent’s vocabulary. However, there are many parents who’ll avoid using it at all costs and the absence of this word can lead to a lack of boundaries and nightmares for all concerned. It’s overuse can also lead to real issues. So, what is a knowledge bullet? It’s a reference to a small yet very important word found in every language on earth. It’s possibly the most condensed form of transferrable knowledge we can find, most effective when it’s the approximate size and shape of a bullet, a projectile ready to be launched with deadly accuracy at lightning speeds.

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Really Playing for Real

really playing

Really playing is something parents in this modern world find hard to do. It requires us to be completely undistracted, entirely present to what’s happening in the room at that moment, aware of the communication that’s occurring between us and our children at that moment.

This is one of the small blessings wrapped up in the current Corona panic. What a gift to see parents and children really playing together in a way we rarely see.

Walking through the park we can see mothers and fathers looking at their children with eyes of awe and wonder, taking time to really appreciate their children’s sparkle and their beauty.

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Stop Asking Questions!

stop asking questions! picture of a wall of question marks.

Asking questions sounds like such a reasonable thing to do with our children. If we imagine an adult saying “Stop asking questions!” to a child, it would be easy to picture the stressed out, overloaded parent, probably in a supermarket, who simply didn’t have the patience for yet another infuriating, abstract question from the youngster. However, the title of this piece is a reminder to self, a reminder that I need to stop asking my children questions all the time, they find it just as disconcerting as I would. This is a lesson I have had to learn over and over again.

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Time for a cuddle…

A strange little moment occurred at a baby group today. My nearly two year old girl, whose independence is often noted, came a cropper when a little boy decided he wanted the tricycle she was sitting on.

She was launched sideways and her head made a fairly decent thud on the floor as she went down. Although I normally suppress reactions and ignore any trips or falls completely, this one definitely merited a cuddle. She started crying in a manner not disproportionate to the bang her head made on the floor. Holding her tight in my arms, the sobbing slowly calmed to an uncharacteristic whine/cry. Squatting uncomfortably and wanting to shift position without breaking the embrace, I lay back gently and held her to my chest. That was how I found myself conspicuously lying on the floor in the middle of a busy playgroup in a large church hall, wondering what the other parents might have been thinking. We were there for a good 5-10 minutes.

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